Lessons and heartfelt advice for new mothers and others
I once listened to a recorded seminar in which the speaker presented a thought-provoking scenario. Imagine yourself driving on a dark, desolate road. You’ve never traveled on this road before, and there are no landmarks. You can only see as far as your headlights will illuminate your path – maybe 20 feet or so. But, you’re guaranteed to reach your destination if you just keep following that road. Do you keep going, not knowing how long it will take, or do you turn around, losing patience and/or questioning the guarantee?
The ability to see the big picture requires faith and trust. A woman in labor, someone on a diet, and a mother with a colicky baby, all want to know the same thing… “how much longer?”. Ultimately, time ends up being inconsequential when the valued, worthwhile goal is achieved. Labor always culminates in birth, diets (that are adhered to) always end in weight loss, and fussy babies always grow up. Your ability to continue your journey comes down to mindset. The big picture resides within us. Its focus is not fine-tuned by outside forces. If you remove your blinders, and keep putting one foot in front of the other, you have control over your destiny. When you accept and believe that your destination awaits if you stay the course, then all you ever need is 20 feet of light – maybe not even – to get there. If a detour arises, and your eyes are wide open, you will be able to make adjustments and continue toward your objective.
Being able to see the big picture enabled my husband to take a leap of faith, embrace the opportunity to follow a coach’s plan, and find, months later, that he was could complete an Ironman triathlon. For moms, the big picture can simply be understanding that stressful, crazy days with your children are subliminal opportunities to gain patience and perspective, and will ultimately turn you into the best parent who raises the most amazing people. (Now, there’s a goal worth staying on track for!)